Have faith: your bf does fancy YOU
It’s funny- a lot of my girlfriends seem deeply insecure about themselves when it comes to men, even loving boyfriends. One friend is obsessed with the prospect of her doting boyfriend cheating. Another thinks her adoring man minds the way she dresses and secretly finds her hippyish clothing a turn-off; another last night confessed to comparing herself to other girls in front of her boyfriend because she feels fatter than them (she has a lovely figure). Why are we doing this? I can understand that these models of female insecurity exist in society, and indeed that some men do make their gfs feel bad about how they look and cheat and so on – one friend asked me to blog about guys who make snide comments about their girlfriend’s size (even when it’s a 10) and cough “gym” under their breath. Another friend (let’s called her Maureen) dated a guy that was nasty about her decision not to get a Brazilian. Yes, those guys are out there, lots of them, I know.
But each of the three girls I talked about have nothing to worry about. Nothing: they are genuinely all startlingly attractive and have their men hooked, all of whom believe they are lucky to be with each girl. The only thing they have to fear is the principal of self-fulfilling prophecy: if they keep this petulant self-flagellation up, the men will get tired of hearing it. They might start seeing this woman that once appeared strong and independent as insecure and frail in her self-confidence which is not sexy. And most of all, tell a guy you’re fat enough and he might start to believe it. Tell a guy he’s looking at other girls enough and he might get the idea in his head – plus then he’ll not have you giving him a hard time about it. Ladies: desist in this line of thought. You’re great. The guy knows it. You know it. So act like it.